This time last year, I was snarling and muttering at every mention of the holidays. This year, I’ve found myself looking forward to baking things.. decorating the tree (which is actually standing in the living room.. SHOCK!), and looking forward to Christmas dinner. I’m not 100% sure what’s made the difference. Maybe living a bit differently, with a bit of a different mindframe than I’ve done in years past. Who knows.
Unfortunately, until today there was still a bit of a dark cloud hanging over me. It began simply enough, with a comment placed on facebook by a childhood friend..someone I knew particularly well growing up. It got worse after my mother proceeded to respond to the comment… and worse still when this “friend” proceeded to speak to my mother in ways that I wouldn’t tolerate out of my own kids let alone someone who isn’t even blood. To say the least, before I took it a step further, I both deleted and blocked this person. I’m not especially happy with myself, but it had to be done.
Bare with me, there is a point to this. I took it a step further and proceeded to remove another 152 people. Some were inactive/deactivated accounts, but most of them were active. I am now down to a slim, svelte 107 friends. And I feel great. Wish I’d done it sooner. I was, over the last few days, contemplating giving up facebook altogether, but there are alot of people I would have no contact with otherwise. SO… the rules were.. If we’ve conversed over the last 6 months, they get to stay. There is literally no point in having that many people on a friends list if you never speak to them. Sure, it sucks to cut off contact with someone you grew up with, but the realization here is that there comes a point when you have to face the fact that that person is not who you thought they were… and you aren’t who you once were either.
There are many ways to cleanse the “icky” parts of your life, to make it more liveable. If it no longer serves to put happiness and abundance in your life, it needs to go. We get to be entirely too sentimental, holding onto things that once were, simply because they once made us happy. This is just the first real step I’m making towards clearing out the “icky”.
On another note entirely… is it just me, or has the energy in the air changed lately?
- Mari Adkins
December 18th, 2012 at 6:22 pm | edit You’re not the only one talking about the energy being different for the last little while.
I recently dropped off Twitter. My account is still there, but I’m not. I’m still on Tumblr, Pinterest, and Facebook, though. I go through my Facebook account at regular stages and purge people/lists/groups/likes/pages off of it. I think I’m down to something like 150 “friends” now – some of those are publishers and agents.
December 19th, 2012 at 8:17 am | edit Funny, X & I were just talking about you last night, Padawan. I’m SO glad to hear you’re doing better this season! I haven’t been on Facebook in weeks and I honestly haven’t missed it one bit. The people I really care about either email or tweet or see me in person or we communicate via blog posts & comments. As far as I’m concerned, everyone else can suck it. Of course, you saw my little explosion over that a few months back. hehehe
I’ve been deathly SICK the last couple of days. Back at work today though, and this weekend the kids are coming home for our Yule celebration. SO tonight I get to disinfect the house & hope against hope that X doesn’t get sick too.
Missing you. We should do something soon. Let’s plan it. <3
December 19th, 2012 at 11:09 am | edit Thinning the herd is fun. It’s like selective evolution.
I use Facebook for old, old friends, the Bishop and business. That’s about it. I still love me some Twitter, though.
- Mari Adkins
December 19th, 2012 at 2:35 pm | edit i figure if someone isn’t talking to me on facebook – why are they following me to begin with? i know – i’m harsh. i just got bored with twitter. plus, it was taking up so much of my time because i allowed it to. after six years, it was time to let it go!
- Mari Adkins
December 19th, 2012 at 5:21 pm | edit It very much is like selective evolution. I like that analogy. In order for us to grow and change, we HAVE to have selective evolution, in all aspects of our lives.
As for facebook, I use to spend a good majority of my day on there, sharing various cat and dog pictures, the usual facebook drivel. It’s changed as well. Now its mostly Doctor Who and whatever pagan pages I’ve “liked” have shared that I find interesting. I’ve stopped worrying about offending anyone. Why? Because they simply don’t care if their Jesus posts offend me. And that’s ok, because I’ve reached a point where I can even appreciate the messages within those posts also. NOT for the message, but because I’ve come to see the spirituality, the Divine, within the person who believes those words, and it really is a beautiful thing. Thinking I may clear up my Twitter followers next and get back on there, not sure yet.
Cootie, feel better. That is an order! Don’t overdo it! HORRIBLE bugs going around right now.. First mom was down sick, then I caught some variant of it, passed it to hubby, then the kids caught it and it feels like I’m about to catch another one (the sneezing fits are the clue, always the clue hehe)
As to planning, its too close to Yule to really plan anything for that, so maybe something for Imbolc/Candlemas? Or hell, for that matter, it don’t even have to be “Ye Olde Official Circle Time” lol I could really go for a good old fashioned Nargles night